Tag Archives: Problem Solving

Building a Solid, Stable Life: Community (Part 3)

Part of the hard work of building a solid, stable, lasting foundation for our lives is the willingness to take your own inventory. An inventory tells you what you have too little of, too much of, and what’s just right, … Continue reading

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Building a Solid, Stable Life: Community (Part 2)

The storms of life test the quality of the house we’ve built for ourselves. If we’ve built well, we will be kept safe in the storm; if not, we’ll find ourselves with a leaky roof and water in our basement, … Continue reading

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Big-Log-Removers Anonymous

Imagine an emergency room doctor trying to remove a small splinter from her patient’s eye. Now image that the doctor has a telephone pole protruding from her own eye! How can the doctor see clearly enough to help her patient, … Continue reading

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Get Ready, Get Set, Change!

You know when to change the oil in your car, because the windshield sticker has the 3-months/3,000 miles date on it. You know when it’s time to change the baby’s diaper because … well, you just know! But how do … Continue reading

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Can We Make Sense of Dating and Mating? (Part 3) – Building a Life Together

Nothing helps clarify your values like being in an intimate, committed relationship. We are often unaware of our deeply held values and goals. But when your partner-to-be says or does something that runs afoul of one of them, you might … Continue reading

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Can We Make Sense of Dating and Mating? (Part 2): “It Takes a Village”

For most of history, your pool of potential marriage partners was limited to the people who lived in your village. You knew just about everything there was to know about each of them. Today it’s often the case that the … Continue reading

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Can We Make Sense of Dating and Mating?

Once upon a time, getting married was easy. Your parents chose your mate for you, you had little or no say in the matter, and you got what you got. If you were lucky or blessed, it was a good … Continue reading

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Couple Therapy, Part 1: The Lifeboat and the Lifeguard

The beginning of the year is a great time to start or restart therapy with your partner, to pursue new perspectives and new skills for your love relationship. To this end I offer you a story, “The Lifeboat.” Once upon … Continue reading

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How Can “Present You” Help “Future You”?

Just like compound interest for our mind and heart, the lessons we learn early in the new year will keep producing dividends month after month. Let’s look right now at 3 lessons that, if learned early in 2015, will spare … Continue reading

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How Do You Know If You’re a Grown-Up?

Starting at the age of 9 or 10, children begin wanting to be grown-ups. They want to experience grown-up perks and prerogatives such as: Staying up late Having money to buy things Eating ice cream whenever they want Driving a … Continue reading

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