Tag Archives: Having it all Together

Big-Log-Removers Anonymous

Imagine an emergency room doctor trying to remove a small splinter from her patient’s eye. Now image that the doctor has a telephone pole protruding from her own eye! How can the doctor see clearly enough to help her patient, … Continue reading

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How Can “Present You” Help “Future You”?

Just like compound interest for our mind and heart, the lessons we learn early in the new year will keep producing dividends month after month. Let’s look right now at 3 lessons that, if learned early in 2015, will spare … Continue reading

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New, Yes, but Improved?

Thanks to the hopeful (or cynical) genius who invented the concept of New Year’s resolutions, the average gym derives the majority of its revenue from new memberships purchased in January. A January 2013 article in Forbes magazine suggested that, although … Continue reading

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Therapy and “The Gift of the Magi”

“One dollar and eighty-seven cents. That was all. And sixty cents of it was in pennies.” In his classic Christmas short story The Gift of the Magi, O. Henry paints a picture of a young married couple making their passage … Continue reading

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Ebenezer Scrooge And “An Altered Life”

One of the scariest movies ever isn’t about vampires or chain saws. It’s the 1951 version of Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol. The scariest part is not the Ghosts of Christmas Past, Present and Future, but the warning they bring … Continue reading

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Is It Thanksgiving Or “Thanks-Giving”?

At this time of the year, if we listen carefully, we can hear the Spirit of Thanksgiving calling to us, “Remember … remember.” That’s what the practice of “thanks-giving” is – the conscious remembering of undeserved benefits we’ve received. This … Continue reading

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How Do You Know If You’re a Grown-Up?

Starting at the age of 9 or 10, children begin wanting to be grown-ups. They want to experience grown-up perks and prerogatives such as: Staying up late Having money to buy things Eating ice cream whenever they want Driving a … Continue reading

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Addiction and Recovery Part 3: “By Any Means Necessary”

First published in 1939, Alcoholics Anonymous (the book from which the Twelve Step fellowship got its name) says that alcoholism and other addictions are “cunning, baffling, powerful.” Because of the Hydra-headed nature of addiction, treatment for it and recovery from … Continue reading

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Addiction and Recovery Part 1: What is Addiction?

Questions about addiction come up frequently in therapy. Many people have a difficult time identifying as addicts because of the stigma associated with the word. It’s not easy to accept that one might have a life-controlling problem. Some clients, especially … Continue reading

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Creating Community Part 2: Tzimtzum and Empathic Listening

According to the sixteenth century Jewish mystic Isaac Luria, when God decided to create the world, since He filled the entire universe, He found it necessary to withdraw Himself. Without this process of creative withdrawing, which Luria called tzimtzum, “there … Continue reading

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