Tag Archives: Empathy

Therapy and “The Gift of the Magi”

“One dollar and eighty-seven cents. That was all. And sixty cents of it was in pennies.” In his classic Christmas short story The Gift of the Magi, O. Henry paints a picture of a young married couple making their passage … Continue reading

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Addiction and Recovery Part 3: “By Any Means Necessary”

First published in 1939, Alcoholics Anonymous (the book from which the Twelve Step fellowship got its name) says that alcoholism and other addictions are “cunning, baffling, powerful.” Because of the Hydra-headed nature of addiction, treatment for it and recovery from … Continue reading

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Creating Community Part 2: Tzimtzum and Empathic Listening

According to the sixteenth century Jewish mystic Isaac Luria, when God decided to create the world, since He filled the entire universe, He found it necessary to withdraw Himself. Without this process of creative withdrawing, which Luria called tzimtzum, “there … Continue reading

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Creating Community Part 1: Show Up and Speak Up

Imagine if, when we left our homes tomorrow morning, every one of us saw our secret thoughts and feelings spelled out in neon lights above our heads. Would we be horrified? Would we rush to throw a blanket over our … Continue reading

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Good Grieving Part 1: What is Grieving?

Grieving is a master concept that helps explain many of the issues that clients bring into therapy. Learning the practice of “good grieving” helps bring healing within and between people. “Good grieving” is the process of responding and adjusting to … Continue reading

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What is Attachment? (Part 1)

“safe haven, secure base” American psychologist Harry Harlow revolutionized the way we think about emotional attachments, and he did it with artificial monkeys. In a series of experiments during the late 1950s and early 1960s, Harlow observed that baby rhesus … Continue reading

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Thinking About Therapy? What Can You Expect?

You are thinking about entering therapy and you think that now is the right time to begin, but you may not be sure what to expect.  Here are 7 things you can expect in therapy: 1. Safety You don’t go … Continue reading

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