Tag Archives: Emotions

Can We Make Sense of Dating and Mating? (Part 3) – Building a Life Together

Nothing helps clarify your values like being in an intimate, committed relationship. We are often unaware of our deeply held values and goals. But when your partner-to-be says or does something that runs afoul of one of them, you might … Continue reading

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Couple Therapy, Part 3: Your Relationship Dance – Injury-Prone, or Intimate?

We watch “Dancing with the Stars” and shows like it to be inspired by the artistry of the contestants. But some of the celebrity contestants, sincere though they may be, inspire our sympathy rather than our admiration. When a couple comes … Continue reading

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Couple Therapy, Part 2: “Naked and Unashamed”

In my previous blog, I discussed how a couple therapist serves as a “lifeguard” for relationships. The therapist calms the couple’s panic, listens empathetically and normalizes their experience of woundedness. As the couple and the therapist collaborate in the healing process, … Continue reading

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New, Yes, but Improved?

Thanks to the hopeful (or cynical) genius who invented the concept of New Year’s resolutions, the average gym derives the majority of its revenue from new memberships purchased in January. A January 2013 article in Forbes magazine suggested that, although … Continue reading

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Is It Thanksgiving Or “Thanks-Giving”?

At this time of the year, if we listen carefully, we can hear the Spirit of Thanksgiving calling to us, “Remember … remember.” That’s what the practice of “thanks-giving” is – the conscious remembering of undeserved benefits we’ve received. This … Continue reading

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How Do You Know If You’re a Grown-Up?

Starting at the age of 9 or 10, children begin wanting to be grown-ups. They want to experience grown-up perks and prerogatives such as: Staying up late Having money to buy things Eating ice cream whenever they want Driving a … Continue reading

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Addiction and Recovery Part 1: What is Addiction?

Questions about addiction come up frequently in therapy. Many people have a difficult time identifying as addicts because of the stigma associated with the word. It’s not easy to accept that one might have a life-controlling problem. Some clients, especially … Continue reading

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See You In September?

For people of all ages, there’s something about September. Even for those of us who have been working throughout the summer, there’s a wistful sense that the “real year” is about to begin. The summer days dwindle down to a … Continue reading

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Creating Community Part 1: Show Up and Speak Up

Imagine if, when we left our homes tomorrow morning, every one of us saw our secret thoughts and feelings spelled out in neon lights above our heads. Would we be horrified? Would we rush to throw a blanket over our … Continue reading

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Good Grieving Part 4: Through the Darkness, Into a New World

What we call “grieving” is our journey from normalcy into the disorientation, pain and darkness of loss, and then, if we do our “good grieving” work, into a new world. We all make this journey many times, in ways big … Continue reading

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