Tag Archives: Boundaries

Ebenezer Scrooge And “An Altered Life”

One of the scariest movies ever isn’t about vampires or chain saws. It’s the 1951 version of Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol. The scariest part is not the Ghosts of Christmas Past, Present and Future, but the warning they bring … Continue reading

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Creating Community Part 2: Tzimtzum and Empathic Listening

According to the sixteenth century Jewish mystic Isaac Luria, when God decided to create the world, since He filled the entire universe, He found it necessary to withdraw Himself. Without this process of creative withdrawing, which Luria called tzimtzum, “there … Continue reading

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Creating Community Part 1: Show Up and Speak Up

Imagine if, when we left our homes tomorrow morning, every one of us saw our secret thoughts and feelings spelled out in neon lights above our heads. Would we be horrified? Would we rush to throw a blanket over our … Continue reading

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Grow, Grow!

It is written in the Talmud (the most important text in traditional Judaism), “Every blade of grass has its angel that bends over it, whispering, ‘Grow, grow!’” It is the destiny of every little blade of grass to become all … Continue reading

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Some Practical Boundary Skills

Cultivating a solid sense of self involves knowing what to say “yes” to, and what to say “no” to. Some opportunities are right and ripe for us to embrace, and others are not. We want to embrace life, say “yes” … Continue reading

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In Therapy: What Will We Talk About?

Recently a client came into my office and announced, “I have five things I want to talk about!” He knew just what he wanted to talk about. Other clients know they want to be in therapy and that now’s the … Continue reading

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