Category Archives: Family

Building a Solid, Stable Life: Community (Part 3)

Part of the hard work of building a solid, stable, lasting foundation for our lives is the willingness to take your own inventory. An inventory tells you what you have too little of, too much of, and what’s just right, … Continue reading

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Building a Solid, Stable Life: Community (Part 2)

The storms of life test the quality of the house we’ve built for ourselves. If we’ve built well, we will be kept safe in the storm; if not, we’ll find ourselves with a leaky roof and water in our basement, … Continue reading

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Can We Make Sense of Dating and Mating? (Part 3) – Building a Life Together

Nothing helps clarify your values like being in an intimate, committed relationship. We are often unaware of our deeply held values and goals. But when your partner-to-be says or does something that runs afoul of one of them, you might … Continue reading

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Can We Make Sense of Dating and Mating? (Part 2): “It Takes a Village”

For most of history, your pool of potential marriage partners was limited to the people who lived in your village. You knew just about everything there was to know about each of them. Today it’s often the case that the … Continue reading

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Can We Make Sense of Dating and Mating?

Once upon a time, getting married was easy. Your parents chose your mate for you, you had little or no say in the matter, and you got what you got. If you were lucky or blessed, it was a good … Continue reading

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Couple Therapy, Part 1: The Lifeboat and the Lifeguard

The beginning of the year is a great time to start or restart therapy with your partner, to pursue new perspectives and new skills for your love relationship. To this end I offer you a story, “The Lifeboat.” Once upon … Continue reading

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Therapy and “The Gift of the Magi”

“One dollar and eighty-seven cents. That was all. And sixty cents of it was in pennies.” In his classic Christmas short story The Gift of the Magi, O. Henry paints a picture of a young married couple making their passage … Continue reading

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Ebenezer Scrooge And “An Altered Life”

One of the scariest movies ever isn’t about vampires or chain saws. It’s the 1951 version of Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol. The scariest part is not the Ghosts of Christmas Past, Present and Future, but the warning they bring … Continue reading

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Is It Thanksgiving Or “Thanks-Giving”?

At this time of the year, if we listen carefully, we can hear the Spirit of Thanksgiving calling to us, “Remember … remember.” That’s what the practice of “thanks-giving” is – the conscious remembering of undeserved benefits we’ve received. This … Continue reading

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Surviving and Thriving in the “Happy Holidays”

The greeting “Happy Holidays!” carries with it the expectation of joy, celebration and happy times. Yet our actual experience of the holiday season is sometimes the opposite. The joyful experience that the holiday season is meant to be can be … Continue reading

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